WHAT KIND OF DIVORCE IS RIGHT FOR YOU?
HER EMPOWERED DIVORCE EPisode 97
THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF DIVORCE AND THEIR IMPLICATIONS EP 97
HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach
GUEST: Rosemarie Ferrante, Collaborative Attorney/ Mediator for Divorce Mediation Center of Fairfield County
SUMMARY:
When contemplating divorce, our minds often leap to hiring lawyers as the default course of action. While this approach might be suitable for certain families, it's crucial to recognize that alternative, less adversarial methods exist, and they can bring more positive outcomes. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, Host Beverly Price invites Rosemarie Ferrante, a family attorney, Collaborative Attorney, and Mediator for the Divorce Mediation Center of Fairfield County. They discuss the different types of divorce, their implications, and how they influence the trajectories of our lives post-divorce – impacting the quality of co-parenting relationships and the financial aspects. Beverly and Rosemarie also talk about the contrast from settlement to mediation to collaborative and under which circumstances each should be used.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS:
● Do you need litigation for your family? No, you need non-adversarial divorce processes. The litigation process is an adversarial process. It is not set up necessarily to help families solve problems. It’s best suited for people who never need not to co-parent or see each other again.
● Mediation and collaborative divorce processes are the first processes to consider when looking for a process that will work for your family. They are voluntary, take both spouses' commitment, and are founded on the principles of good faith and full transparency.
● Is mediation and collaborative suit for hostile individuals? Yes, but collaborative would be a better fit because both parties have an attorney in every meeting, and there is a mental health professional involved to help manage emotions.
● No matter where you are in your divorce process, initiating conversations with your spouse is critical. Conversations can help you start the healing process and figure things out. Dragging someone through a divorce process is a recipe for disaster. If the person is not ready, healing, therapeutic separation, and counseling can help.
● What makes collaborative different is the signed participation agreement, signed by both lawyers that say they are not going to court. If the collaborative breaks down, the attorneys will not be the litigators.
NOTABLE QUOTES:
● There are attorneys who double in a little of everything, but just like you are seeking a specialist in medical care when it comes to legal care and legal advice, it’s imperative to use attorneys trained specifically in family law. (Rosemarie)
● So many people think divorce is a negative, hostile, and antagonistic process, but reframing your thinking to view it as a healing process can be amazing. (Beverly)
● The majority of family matters can be resolved with mediation or collaborative, but it takes both spouses' willingness to participate. Divorce is not easy, even in the best of circumstances. (Rosemarie)
● There is so much emotion involved in every divorce, and the emotional prep work is so critical. It takes both spouses to recognize that not every relationship is meant to last forever, and it’s okay. If you aren’t doing marriage well, you can do the divorce well, particularly if there are children involved. What starts with love can end with respect. (Rosemarie)
● Getting to the place where you are both ready to proceed with compassion and respect is where the hard work is, and when we do it, the legal and financial can be a lot smoother. Emotional prep work is the difference between a smooth, healthy and expensive, destructive litigious process. (Rosemarie)
● Nobody knows your family better than you do, so just think through, in your particular instance, what support you need and feel best serves your family and find a process that will be best for your unique circumstances. (Rosemarie)
FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS:
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ABOUT OUR GUEST:
Rosemarie Ferrante is a family attorney who has been practicing exclusively family law for over 25 years. She focuses her practice on non-adversarial divorce through mediation and the collaborative divorce processes. Rosemarie’s goal is to make a positive impact on the divorce process by giving couples the resources and tools they need to help their family transition smoothly through the restructuring of their family.
Rosemarie founded Divorce Resource CT to provide public education and awareness, and support to those contemplating divorce. In partnership with Hollis Hardiman, CDFA, she offers education, support, and wellness workshops for individuals not only contemplating divorce but also for those going through the process, as well as those seeking post-divorce information. The workshops are presented by herself and Hollis and various esteemed mental health professionals and are offered throughout Fairfield County, CT, and online.
Rosemarie is Vice President of CCND, The Connecticut Council for Non-Adversarial Divorce, the statewide non-profit professional organization of Connecticut mediators and collaborative divorce practitioners. She is a member of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) and the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP). She is a founding chapter leader of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP), the first national organization that unites professionals who serve clients going through all stages of the divorce process. Her bar association memberships include the American Bar Association (Family Law section), the Connecticut Bar Association (CBA), including the Alternate Dispute Resolution (ADR) and Family Law sections, the Danbury Bar Association, and the Fairfield County Bar Association.
Rosemarie is a frequent guest on podcasts where she discusses the benefits of an integrative divorce process in which a team of interdisciplinary professionals best suited for the individual family guides the family through the divorce process to ensure a positive post-divorce co-parenting and financial life. She co-edited a book on divorce in Connecticut, “Divorce and Separation, Connecticut Edition,” available on Amazon.
She earned her bachelor’s degree from Cornell University in 1993 and her law degree from Brooklyn Law School in 1996, where she was the Primary Notes & Comments Editor of the Brooklyn Law Review. She was admitted to the Connecticut Bar in 1996 and the New York Bar in 1997.
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ABOUT YOUR HOST:
Beverly Price is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach ® and Women’s empowerment coach with over 25 years of experience. Her passion lies in supporting women through every aspect of separation and divorce. She offers a comprehensive coaching experience that goes beyond just empowerment work to help clients develop their communication, conflict management, boundary setting, and negotiation skills. Beverly also provides expertise on the technical, legal, and financial aspects of the divorce process.
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