Those Old Tapes
HER EMPOWERED DIVORCE EPisode 96
HOW PAST EMOTIONS RESURFACE DURING A DIVORCE EP 96
HOST: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach
GUEST: Sharon Mosley, Sharon Mosley Mental Health Therapist
SUMMARY:
During a divorce, the long-buried emotional and psychological issues can resurface, intensifying the already challenging situation. Feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and inadequacy may reemerge, amplifying the conflicts between spouses. Unhealed wounds from the past can cloud judgment and hinder effective communication, leading to prolonged legal battles and heightened emotional turmoil. In this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, Host Beverly Price invites Sharon Mosley, a therapist and licensed mental health counselor with over 20 years of experience. They discuss the old tapes from our childhood and society that continue to play in our minds, how they can resurface during divorce, and what we can do about them to enhance our emotional and mental well-being.
Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance, you can move through the process with knowledge, skills, and confidence. If you’d like to schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at this link.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS:
● Our past can resurface during divorce because so many of us as women have an identity as wives, and when divorce comes and the title goes away, it can leave a big emotional gap.
● Emotional and verbal abuse in a relationship can trigger old tapes, make us discredit ourselves of what we can do, manifest physically, and impact our kids.
● Why is he doing this to me? Sometimes it may be a personal attack, and other times, it has very little to do with you; it is about something they have not resolved, and you become the target because you are close.
● Regardless of where you are, it takes a lot of courage to come out and speak about what is happening in your divorce. Why? Because whatever you feel is real, no one can tell you what to feel and what not to feel, and it’s not your fault.
NOTABLE QUOTES:
● The question of “what can I do after the divorce” is often rooted in something from childhood or earlier experiences, and what happens with partners is they reinforce the very thing you are trying to get away from. (Sharon)
● Many women are dealing with emotional and verbal abuse and people putting them down. (Beverly)
● Some of the old tapes that tend to come back after divorce are, I’m a failure, I don’t matter, my life has little meaning, and It’s my fault. It’s my fault is a big one, and often, the guilt of something that is not your fault can come back (Sharon)
● The very person we are divorcing at some point was the very person we shared all or most of our intimate thoughts with, and they may know us better than just anyone; when we get to that place when we may no longer be friends, they know all the buttons to push to leave us in a vulnerable place. (Sharon)
● What is happening to you emotionally can have a physical impact; the correlation between mental and emotional health is real; if you let something fester and not heal, it can spread like cancer and impact other areas of your life. (Sharon)
● When a woman is the victim of verbal and mental abuse, it harms her ability to manage her divorce, and her emotional health can manifest physically and impact other areas of her life. (Sharon)
FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS:
Beverly’s personal Facebook page can be found here.
Women’s Divorce and Empowerment group discussion available here.
ABOUT OUR GUEST:
Sharon Mosley is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor (LCMHC-S) with over 20 years of experience. She is currently licensed to practice in NC and Arizona. Her educational background includes degrees in Agency Counseling (M.S.) and History (B.S) from North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University.
She is the owner of The Fit Talk PLLC, where she offers counseling and health coaching services to individuals and groups. She has experience providing individual, family, and group therapy for those struggling with a variety of mental health issues, including anxiety and depression. She also holds an A.C.E. health coach certification. Sharon is committed to healthier living and believes one of the best ways to approach this is through walk-and-talk therapy. She encourages clients to move beyond the office setting and take their sessions outside for walks on the trail when possible.
She received extensive training in a number of therapeutic approaches, including Motivational Interviewing, Trauma Informed Therapy, Gottman Couples Therapy, Substance Abuse Treatment, Mindfulness-Based Therapy, Binge Eating Treatment, Grief Summit, Suicide Risk Assessment, and Cognitive Behavior Therapy.
Sharon enjoys giving back to her community and served 15 years as a volunteer Disaster Mental Health Therapist with the American Red Cross, assisting families and individuals in crisis. She also served as a volunteer community member with the Durham County Hospital Corporation Patient Safety and Clinical Quality Committee. She is the membership chair of the local chapter of her college alma-mater. She is the co-chair of the membership committee of the Licensed Professional Counselors Association of North Carolina. She is also a member of the American Counseling Association. In her spare time, she enjoys spending time with family and friends and participating in races, including 5ks and half marathons.
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ABOUT YOUR HOST:
Beverly Price is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach ® and Women’s empowerment coach with over 25 years of experience. Her passion lies in supporting women through every aspect of separation and divorce. She offers a comprehensive coaching experience that goes beyond just empowerment work to help clients develop their communication, conflict management, boundary setting, and negotiation skills. Beverly also provides expertise on the technical, legal, and financial aspects of the divorce process.
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Divorce doesn’t have to be a death sentence. With the right support and guidance,
you can move through the process with knowledge, skills and confidence. If you’d like to
schedule a complimentary private consultation, reach out to Beverly at: https://beverly-price.as.me/Consultation.
Visit https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/her-empowered-divorce/id1635143315 to access the entire archive of Her Empowered Divorce episodes, and while you’re there, please subscribe, rate and review our show!
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