Build Back Better From Divorce
Host: Beverly Price, Divorce & Empowerment Coach
Guest: Ilyssa Panitz, Divorce Journalist & Commentator
SUMMARY:
On this episode of Her Empowered Divorce, we delve into the transformative nature of divorce, shifting the narrative from a tragic ending to the commencement of a new life chapter. Hosted by Beverly Price, the show features Ilyssa Panitz, a seasoned multimedia journalist and divorce expert. As a survivor herself, Ilyssa emphasizes the significance of reclaiming one's voice and recognizing agency, particularly in the face of challenges like domestic violence or financial uncertainty. The episode explores the mindset required to #Survive & Thrive, emphasizing the profound changes individuals undergo post-divorce.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Invitation to Reinvention:
The "D" in divorce can stand for "Do-Over" rather than "Drama" or "Destruction."
Becoming the "Divorce Journalist":
Ilyssa's personal divorce experience inspired her to become an expert in the field.
Communicating Shared Information:
Ilyssa provides a pragmatic roadmap for listeners, viewers, and readers navigating all aspects of divorce.
Roadblocks Ilyssa Had to Surmount:
Ignorance about the broad nature of domestic violence.
Cluelessness about financial planning and management.
False starts with incompatible attorneys.
Navigating the uncertainties of the pandemic.
Surviving & Thriving:
Ilyssa's determination to bounce back and prevail over adversity, serving as a model for her children.
Support Systems:
The importance of plugging into nonjudgmental camaraderie, humor, information, and varied viewpoints.
Looking Back:
Reflecting on past mistakes to prevent their repetition.
Embracing the Past:
Recognizing that even dissolved marriages were once founded in love.
Moving Forward:
Initiating a fresh start and finding the deserved relationship.
Words to Live By While Divorcing:
#Survive & Thrive – #Build Back Better!
Word to the Wise: If You’re Going to Date Anyone, Date Yourself:
Make a profile just for you.
Engage in self-indulgent activities.
Cultivate deeper self-understanding through journaling.
Dating Advice:
Focus on exploring personal desires and needs holistically.
Reasons Dating After 40 or 50 is Great:
Milestone events like weddings and parenting are likely accomplished.
Established life, career, and priorities.
Earned self-confidence becomes attractive.
Timing is Everything:
No rush; take the pressure off and focus on personal development.
Top Three Tips for Women in the Midst of Divorce:
Your divorce is not the grand finale; a new act is about to begin.
Ask hard questions; examine the big picture.
Take stock of lessons learned in the marriage.
NOTABLE QUOTES:
"Divorce is really just your intermission. The first act of your life may be done, but we have yet to see what’s going to play out." - Ilyssa
"Divorce is really all about mindset, and if you are determined to say, ‘I want all these great new beginnings’ … it’s such a great opportunity." - Ilyssa
"I didn’t realize that domestic violence can happen to anyone. It’s not just physical, it’s emotional and mental. It’s stalking, religious, financial, sexual, so many things." - Ilyssa
"Watching your life go up in smoke is gut-wrenching, and you’ve got to stay strong, especially when you’re that mom or that stable parent." - Ilyssa
"You’re going to feel so different as an individual (post-divorce). I think women develop more confidence, are happier, feel more at peace and start liking themselves better." - Ilyssa
"One thing I’m very firm about is don’t go from your divorce quickly into another relationship without learning about yourself first." - Beverly
"The beauty of age is that it gives you those experiences and makes for more stimulating conversation!" - Ilyssa
"If people stop putting all these rushes on things, trying to fill a void they feel is created by what’s no longer there, the results (of dating) will be a lot more positive." - Ilyssa
FURTHER RESOURCES/RELEVANT LINKS:
Find out more about Ilyssa’s Authority Magazine column, "How to Survive and Thrive During and After Divorce."
Beverly’s personal Facebook page.
Women’s Divorce and Empowerment group discussion.
ABOUT OUR GUEST:
Ilyssa Panitz is a Divorce Journalist focused solely on topics related to navigating this major life transition. She writes a divorce column for “Authority Magazine” on Medium and has also been a contributing reporter on the topic of divorce for a number of outlets. Ilyssa serves as the Content/Editorial Producer for The National Association of Divorce Professionals and hosts a nationally syndicated and live streaming radio show called, “The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz,” which airs every Saturday and Sunday on CRN Digital Talk Radio and on a variety of streaming platforms.
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ABOUT YOUR HOST:
Beverly Price is a CDC Certified Divorce®️, Women’s empowerment and Pre-Mediation coach with over 25 years of experience. Her passion lies in supporting women through every aspect of separation and divorce. She helps women eliminate the pain, overwhelm, anger, and sadness of divorce and guides them through divorce from contemplation to decision to the legal and financial process of divorce and mediation on to recovery from divorce.
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